I often wonder why people talk a lot about themselves …or at
least about their kids ..their achievements…and the wildest part of the whole
stuff is that …they go on ringing like an old haphazard bell ringing on top of the
fire engine. . They just puff and pant and make all animations ..3d and 2d as
well..and get the life out of you by the time they have explained about how
their kid won the last Olympics (they would nt have gone to the neighbours
backyard tournament even).
But children are the silent sufferers who are subjected to such torments by their
parents..i once heard a parent say..”oh you know my girl won the gold medal in
the national level badminton”…. But the child kept on interrupting “Oh no Mama…i came only
third” and the mother says …” Oh come on, you forgot, ..you came first , child”…But the child would
nt stop at that …and then there is this mother winking and making all funny
expressions which make the guests writhe in an unpleasant ambiance…Well it is
not funny…is it ?
Well, for those who think of this as funny, it could be quite
a passing affair of bragging ..but to think on it deeply, why..what motivated
the mother to say this ? Is nt it her inferiority complex that is lifting up at
times. Is nt it because they feel people do not think good of them that they go
on behaving like that in the false hope that their image is just boosted up by
thus boasting …and finally end up damaging their torn image still more ? In short.. …is nt it
bcos they don’t think good about themselves ?? …I think such people have to get
to the bottom of the problem and find out what’s worrying them in order to
overcome such problems..
What I ve always felt is that …it is we , the parents who are
the catalysts who drive our kids into a life of false and boisterous behaviour
which starts driving them mad as the net of lies and brags which they weave
around them .. …entangles them up and makes them sleepless..
There is this other category of people who just want their
kids to be smarter and smarter and smarter..so that they ll never let them live
in peace. They want their children to fulfill their dreams and not the dreams of
their children to be fulfilled (as if the kid was ever allowed to have a d ream??)
well you see, the child loses a major chunk of its childhood
and because of its love for his mama or papa he goes on striving harder and
harder to achieve the goals of the mother and finally one day the child comes
to a point when she says…”I QUIT” .
And that is the time when he lets the mother understand ,
that till now he has been wearing a mask on which was written “I AM HAPPY” and
now he says
“ I HAVE BEEN FAKING AND I DID IT VERY WELL TO KEEP YOU
HAPPY UNTIL NOW…
BUT NOW THAT I HAVE
GIVEN YOU A PIECE OF MY MIND “ I AM REALLY ..HAPPY”.
Parents need to understand that everytime we praise our kids
saying” oh he comes first in which ever sport he enters.., we are just forcing
it on him” and by the way..whats so great about coming first?? Its quite right
even if you do it silently for the fun of it…and then do it just great?? I
cannot say for sure if you guys agree..but this is what iv e always felt…
What is once our dream is being forced on the child and
repeated again and again so that the child is forced to imagine that this is
what “his” dream is... We say we are doing good but what we really are doing, is silently killing our childrens’ emotions,
by making them run after “our “ dreams instead of endowing them the right to follow “ their” dreams.
