Are Marriages still made in Heaven ???

Last November, I attended the marriage of my cousin who was studying abroad. My cousin, a very pretty girl, was adorned with heavy jewels , which covered her from head to toe (When I said toe I really meant it cos there was even a huge gold anklet and "mettis" ,  toe-rings ).

But as everyone of us in the family got married the same way, there was nothing new to this.The girl's parents had not forgotten to register her share of the property in her name and this summed up to a very huge amount. The wedding reception was the best one in town, in one of the top star hotels in these parts. The most important thing to be noticed here is that it was NOT an arranged marriage but rather one for which both of them fought to extremes.
 It so happened that this week I met my cousin after 4 months, who came along with my aunt and uncle for the sunday service at church. And the story that followed was horrifying. She had broken up with her spouse who had returned to the US.And she was planning to work in the IT company where she was  formerly planning to work. Right now, they had agreed on getting a divorce as early as possible.

Though heart-wrenching, this is not just an exceptional case but rather, a normal event happening nowadays. And parents who get their children married are at a loss ...and cannot find solutions to the problems of their wards.

Most people get married believing the myth that marriage is something extremely blissful and heavenly, which contains all the beautiful things they had longed for.... companionship, intimacy, friendship, ....the list is never-ending.
The truth is that "marriage", at the start, is an empty box. We need to put in lots of things... before we can take anything out.

As Allen says.. 
There is no love in marriage as it is...but rather,  love is in those people who get married,
and those people need to put it into the marriage relationship .

There is no romance in marriage as such...but it all depends on the people who infuse it into their marriage. 

Marriage is an art which needs to be mastered through giving, loving, serving, praising,forgiving -- and thereby keeping the box full. If you take out more than you put in, the box will soon become empty.

 Marriage should be a bond where we are the best of friends...And without friendship blossoming between the two, it gets difficult to forgive, adjust and adapt.

The relationship between partners should be like that of the hand and the eyes...
When the hand gets hurt , the eyes cry...
And when the eye cries, the hand wipes it off...



Only when we understand ourselves , know the other better and feel comfortable with each other can we function independently in a healthy way and thereby function properly within a relationship.

"  Two halves do not make a whole...
   When it comes to a healthy relationship....   it takes two wholes. "       --Patricia Fry

Are'nt we Animals ?

  Tsunami has really shattered a part of the planet ... and has wounded the hearts of many of us who are constantly watching for news updates on Japan, Hawaii and the like...
But it is really painful and disheartening to see a big mass of us cheering like mad men in a cricket ground and before the televisions …when lots of our brothers and sisters are shedding tears…have lost their dear ones … and are shelter less …Crying ...with no one to wipe their tears ? Think of their fears and insecurities …The future of the children who have become orphans in a few seconds…Just think of the radioactivity which is going to cripple them for many years to come or maybe even kill many of them .. !!! Why don’t we, for a moment, THINK !!  What if our children were to starve one fine day and be left on the roads without food and nobody to take care of them ? What if it was India instead of Japan ?
Are’nt we behaving like animals ? Why don’t we for once , become HUMAN BEINGS who really care for our brethren … instead of behaving like a group of Hippocrites !! It really really hurts a lot !!

" I think you are wonderful !! "

I thought I should tell about a story which captured my heart and which also made me think for a while.

A celebrity singer was contracted to sing at a show where lots of important dignitaries were expected to gather.. The night of the concert found the hall packed and anticipation and excitement was in the air as the house manager took the stage and said, "Ladies and gentlemen, thank you being here.But,I am afraid that due to illness, the great celebrity whom you've all come to hear will not be performing tonight. However, we have found a suitable substitute who will provide you with comparable entertainment. The crowd groaned in disappointment and failed to hear the announcer mention the stand-in's name. The environment turned from excitement to frustration. The stand-in performer did the very best he could..and it was extremely wonderful. But, when he had finished, there was nothing but an uncomfortable silence. No one applauded.

But, from the balcony, a little boy stood up and shouted, "That was wonderfull Daddyyyyyy!!! " and he began to clap.And suddenly. the crowd broke into thunderous applause and cheers.
 This sudden turn in the attitude of the crowd , is something which needs to be reflected on....
 

We all need people in our lives who need to stand up once in a while and say " I think you are wonderful", and that too with an open heart.... full of appreciation.
And at times others are expecting this from us...
But are we telling them how wonderful they are?

Tsunami sings !!

This post is about a mischievous little guy ... Johnny . For those who have not met  this little tsunami...He is ... was and will be found everywhere around  ..climbing on, swinging from, running around or jumping to. He is an Angel , always with dirt on his face ...And however hard I try to wash and relieve him of all obvious confections , he tends to be sticky, always !! 

He is a beauty , always with a cut on his finger. He is the core of wisdom .. poor me !! ...always fighting to get the bubble gum stuck on his hair. He can transform into anything... from plumber to mason ...found always with a hammer or a spanner in his pocket .He is always around ...helping me ..pulling out my anthuriums .. overwhelmed by this sudden non-stop desire to go digging for hidden treasure .Such a lovely doll who would easily turn two people into complete idiots. He is a magical creature ...The lazy blogger "Little Rumble " who takes pleasure in bragging about his blog which he never ever updated since the day he started  blogging !! 

And like Alan Beck says....I can easily lock him out of my kitchen, but never out of my heart. ...He is a fun-loving, naughty, cat-chasing bundle of noise. But even when I come back home with a heavy heart, he can mend it magically with his smile and his big bear hug ! That's my Johnny..The adorable singer who could sing even before he could talk !!

And guys..Here is a song he sang from Rihanna..which I uploaded on youtube a year back ..Hope you guys enjoy it !!

First impression is in the eyes of the beholder !!

Something that has always fascinated me is the quote "  "First impression is the best" coz I keep wondering as to which part of that "debut performance" really counts !! If it is just "looks" that are judged first, I am unsure as to how the blind judge us ? Could be with our sounds and intonations ? If so , what impression would you make to the deaf ? Just curious !!

 If ..according to physics "light travels faster than sound" , then our first impressions should be linked to sight and not speech ? Well.. that's what I ve felt .And maybe that is why we feel some people are bright until we hear them speak !! 

 I also believe that, people who are unable to do speak their mind ,could possibly have nothing in their mind to begin with. Well, I've felt the same with people who do not listen. I am sure no one will be able to speak when he doesn’t listen what he hears.
Judging people from first impressions is quite simple. Like for instance, imagine you have just met a person and someone asks you , what you think of that person .Well..he can force a story out of you, and I am sure you’d succeed in telling a beautiful one, despite it being entirely out of guesswork. So from all this, let me conclude ....

 Though, in one way, it is not wrong to pass judgment from first impressions.... it still is wrong in another way...cos it doesn't really work that way. In fact, you really cant do it !! Cos what we see, is only our imagination. And so let me conclude that "First impression- is in the eyes of the beholder". Hope you guys agree!!

Long for Longing !!

This happens to me often nowadays...I feel I am worried ...but I really wouldnt know why I feel that way...cos I would know for sure that there is nothing whatsoever to bother my smooth sail...its something at the back of my mind that keeps itching....Even when I try to find out what it is , I fail miserably..........
I suppose I  worry about things that never were, and that's the worrying part. There is nothing bothering me and that's exactly what's bothering me. Coming to think of it, I'm bothered by nothing.

When it comes to my anxiety about life, what worries me most is not the destination but ...the journey . And I feel its getting twisted as I keep moving on...
 But see...I feel  I am short of something...Well , you know, I long for nothing , in fact , being  human I feel I should change myself and start longing for something, So now what I want most is to "long for something". Wanting to have this feeling of longing so much, I have come to the conclusion that  I am longing for the feeling of longing. So my problem is I long for longing ? HA HA..Guys ..Hope you have'nt gone nuts !!!!
 You see, When I started to write this post, I "wanted to long" for something and now as I conclude, I "long for the feeling of longing", I suppose I really don't have an issue. But then again, isn't this really an issue ?


Now coming to think of this...Guys !! Don't you feel that the above said lines are a bit twisted ? I mean , not very simple ? Well..You know ...Things were simple when the creator created his creations. And I suppose we guys just did a few simple things like eating, sleeping, walking, etc at that time ?

But then....different individuals had the longing to show they were different and so they mixed the above actions, grated them ,crushed , mashed and kneaded them,  to make new actions...and of course ...thereby complicating them...!!!
God !! I wonder why I wanted to blog on something I really cannot identify.  I feel blogging is an escapism for people like me who want a little bit of privacy while going public. So...We all want to be private publicly. Well...I suppose we are all crazy. A pack of  crazy guys !!! Well....That's what makes us normal again !! Ha Ha !!

Technology is not the solution to problems caused by technology !!

Dear Friends !!!   In an era when information and technology is at the max, its high time we think about the  problems which we are going to face in the coming era. Most of the problems are caused by "technology" ..... and in order to solve this , we turn to technology again !! Though what I talk may seem funny, let me make this point clear...  

"Technology is not the solution to problems caused by technology " 

And the funniest thing here is , .....the smaller a thing is, the more powerful it turns out to be... like for instance,  the smaller a pest , the faster it overcomes all techological attempts to eradicate it  ?? Now what you are going to see is something small but extremely powerful to become the root cause for " 666 " or is this what is the "666" mentioned in the Bible ?? 

I thought about this a lot many times before posting ....and finally thought it was worth it. In fact I received this forward from one of my friends in the US. Hope this would help everyone !!

Here goes..... 

This is the latest news in the world !!  !  

   

It is the size of a grain of rice …

A new development which eliminates the necessity of using currency or credit cards .It is already being used by the wealthy as a tool to help prevent kidnapping.You will use it for it’s advantages and to help prevent fraud and identity theft... Flee from it !!! Find out why !!  

 

Transponder is a system of storage for reading information in microchips. Reading occurs in waves like a remote control. The “bio-chip” measures 7mm of length and .075mm wide, as large as a grain of rice. It contains a transponder and a rechargeable Lithium battery. The battery is recharged by a thermocouple circuit that produces an electrical current with the fluctuation of body temperature. 

 

MOTOROLA is the company producing the microchip for MONDEX SMARTCARD. They developed several implants for humans using the “Bio-chip.” More than 250 corporations and 20 countries are involved in the distribution of MONDEX to the world and many nations are “privileged” to use this system, among them: Great Britian, Canada, U.S.A., Australia, New Zealand, Israel, Hong Kong, China, Indonesia, Macau, Malaysia, Philipines, Singapore, Thailand, India, Taiwan, Sri Lanka, Costa Rica, Guatemala, Nicaragua, Panama, Honduras,El Salvador & Brazil.There are other SMARTCARD systems being used through MONDEX, especially since MasterCard bought 51% share of the company.

But ask yourself...what does this have to do with me...?

They spent more than $1.5 Million Dollars in research just to discover the best place to insert the “bio-chip” into the human body. They only found two satisfactory and efficient places - THE HEAD, underneath the scalp and the backside of the hand, specifically…

THE RIGHT HAND!

 

(v.16) He causes all, both small and great, rich and poor, free and slave, to receive a mark on their right hand or on their foreheads, (v.17) and that no one may buy or sell except one who has the mark or the name of the beast, or the number of his name.    Revelation 13:16, 17

Not much of a coincidence ?

REMEMBER THIS COMPANY NAME AND LOGO!  

One billion “bio-chips” are being produced by MONDEX a year. It’s been in production for at least a year. They discovered that if the chip would be in a card, they will encounter serious problems. The chip could be cut and information would be changed or falsified. The value could be manipulated, stolen or lost. After you receive the card, it will expire within one to two years. In the end, real money will be insecure in the general market. There is only one solution for this problem, embraced by MOTOROLA… implanting the “bio-chip” in the right hand or the head, where it cannot be removed. If it is removed by surgery, the small capsule will burst and the individual would be contaminated by the Lithium and the chemical in the microbacteria, and the Global Positioning System (GPS) will detect if it was removed, and will alert the authorities. Notice MONDEX means “Money on your hand.”

 MON = MONetary

DEX = DEXter = Right-hand side

will you take this serious

Imagine your parents, friends and siblings, everyone you know…

having to be “marked.” Now that you’ve been informed, but still doubt this information, do the following. Go to www.google.com. Search for the word “VERICHIP” and read some of the links. Do the same with the words “MONDEX SMARTCARD.” We can no longer claim ignorance. We are now informed, and accountable.

Where is the "Good" in "Goodbye" ?!

GoodByes have become a part of todays life. And we use it too often now ..as we keep moving...moving on from one job to another...from one place to another...one country to another...and so on !!

But right from the time I was a child , I hated saying "GoodByes". They were always "Bad Byes" for me especially when I had to say Bye to friends and family whom I loved the most. .... (Now guys, Don't start laughing....!!)

I remember one of my friends going mad when I said I was scared to say "Bye" . But now, even when I have to say this often, I really get this funny habit of eluding this and instead rather saying "See You". But I suppose this has nothing to do with the word itself ..But I suppose it is linked to this pessimistic thought that keeps reminding you . that it might be forever !!!.

But  those true "Good byes" make you reflect on lots of other stuff....

They really do make you look back on what you've had, what you've lost and what you've been taking for granted. And they also tell you ...that if we ever feel sad to say good bye to someone , we need to be thankful that we have come across someone who was so good that it was hard to say good bye to them .

But I stick to my belief that "GoodByes " remind us that some people aren't meant to be in our lives forever. But that they are passing through our lives to bring us something... a gift, a blessing, a lesson we need to learn ....  You'll have that gift forever.... though you have to say bye to the one who brought the gift !!

It's never hard to lose something you never really had !!

You know what ? It really does sound funny !! But this is how I feel about things...especially when it comes to relationships... which we would have assumed to have existed but never really would have ....

 Well....Many of us would agree that friendships are valuable factors in life and they come in, free of the emotional baggages ,unlike family relationships and provide a lot of  fun, support, intimacy and a sense of belonging. But still isn't it true that friendships can cause emotional damage when they go wrong ?

We often talk about "marriage breakups" and "romantic breakups" ....but isn't it true that "friendship breakups" too exist....aren't there times we deliberately want to break up a friendship because we have drifted apart in interests, skills and beliefs during life's journey? But anyway, when it comes to ending friendship..I suppose we do not have a guide line or an etiquette on "How to" ?? 

Is it just enough to ignore somebody or make them feel they are not wanted  anymore ? It is quite surprising that this is what most of us do ... 

As long as we are friends with someone, we treat them differently from other people. Though friendship is not exclusive or genetically determined like a family relationship, we have so much room for all our friends.But like any relationship, friendship survives only when people can accommodate each other's differences and also the changes that happen to each of them. They may share lots in common when they meet , but later in life as they tend to change due to life situations,  there needs to have something powerful to hold you together in spite of all those differences ...failing which it may turn out to be damaging rather than nourishing  as it causes guilt on one side, and anger and pain on the other. 

We Indians don't like to hurt others and for that sake , we try to fake... to stop a break-up...so that we not only cheat ourselves from having a good and true relationship, but foster resentment towards the other person which could lead to greater pain and heart ache in future ! Treating the person with respect and dignity in all sincerity and genuineness might help to soften the whole thing. 
The same goes for Good Byes too...(I think I need to say lots on "GoodByes " in my next post !! ) 
But anyway, its always good to remember.... that the last thing we do and say to people is quite important in life...What if it happens to be the last thing you ever say to them ?