You know what ? It really does sound funny !! But this is how I feel about things...especially when it comes to relationships... which we would have assumed to have existed but never really would have ....
Well....Many of us would agree that friendships are valuable factors in life and they come in, free of the emotional baggages ,unlike family relationships and provide a lot of fun, support, intimacy and a sense of belonging. But still isn't it true that friendships can cause emotional damage when they go wrong ?
We often talk about "marriage breakups" and "romantic breakups" ....but isn't it true that "friendship breakups" too exist....aren't there times we deliberately want to break up a friendship because we have drifted apart in interests, skills and beliefs during life's journey? But anyway, when it comes to ending friendship..I suppose we do not have a guide line or an etiquette on "How to" ??
Is it just enough to ignore somebody or make them feel they are not wanted anymore ? It is quite surprising that this is what most of us do ...
As long as we are friends with someone, we treat them differently from other people. Though friendship is not exclusive or genetically determined like a family relationship, we have so much room for all our friends.But like any relationship, friendship survives only when people can accommodate each other's differences and also the changes that happen to each of them. They may share lots in common when they meet , but later in life as they tend to change due to life situations, there needs to have something powerful to hold you together in spite of all those differences ...failing which it may turn out to be damaging rather than nourishing as it causes guilt on one side, and anger and pain on the other.
We Indians don't like to hurt others and for that sake , we try to fake... to stop a break-up...so that we not only cheat ourselves from having a good and true relationship, but foster resentment towards the other person which could lead to greater pain and heart ache in future ! Treating the person with respect and dignity in all sincerity and genuineness might help to soften the whole thing. The same goes for Good Byes too...(I think I need to say lots on "GoodByes " in my next post !! )
But anyway, its always good to remember.... that the last thing we do and say to people is quite important in life...What if it happens to be the last thing you ever say to them ?
1 comment:
I truly agree to this .Certain relationship are so superficial and even though we try to feel it exists, frankly we would feel it does not, as it is not at all useful to both parties and we would get irritated by the same, so that in the end , it turns out to be a happiness to lose the relationship. The caption sounds great and it also would tempt one to read the post.
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