Returns come the other way !!

Until recently, like many others I too used to think I never did expect anything in return for what I did.
Well...I used to tell myself I was perfect. I felt proud I had the natural goodness in me which made me love and serve everyone unconditionally . But recently  I started feeling  that I was totally wrong.






I was only thinking  of all the monetary help I had done for others for which I hadn’t expected returns.
And never once did I  think about how much I was expecting returns from everyone " emotionally".

I suppose I was doing good ...because I wanted God to bless me...So had'nt I expected something in return for my deeds ?

I kept showering love on others and did things to make them happy . But was'nt it because i wanted them to love me in return? Again , I had expected returns ?

Well... When I start thinking this way I feel quite uneasy.  ...But most of us do this ...dont we ? And maybe, we all have trouble only because we expect returns to come from the same person. Well.. I suppose it usually doesn’t work that way? 

Sometimes it even comes in the form of the "happiness" we get when we make someone happy?? I ve felt this kind of unusual happiness  many times when I give gifts to people ...

well...again this is another one big confusion I have...i still dont know if it is alright  to give gifts to people ? And I still dont know if  they really feel happy getting those gifts ? oopss ...I am going off my track right now .. I suppose i'll write about this later !!

Well....They say ... 
What you withhold will be withheld from you.

If you expect love ... give love.
If you expect people to understand you... Try to understand them …
If you expect people to appreciate you ... show your appreciation for them.
If you want help, lend a helping hand....blah blah blah !!!

But I am sure it is not that simple???

We are not throwing a boomerang everytime we do something good for others ...to expect it to return back to us just like that ? I suppose returns dont come back from the same direction  ...

Could be that they come the other way !!! HA HA ...

JennyPadua,Nagercoil,TamilNadu,India,JeniPadua

Emotionally mature newborns?

What I write is something very personal.

And the views that I share here is what I feel and I mean what I write...

This time i need to write about something I feel is quite a mystery .

The birth of a baby has always intrigued me. Until the baby remains inside the womb,

he breathes and is being fed through the cord which connects him to his mother. He swims about in a fluid medium where the fluid goes into his nostrils and mouth. He doesnt cry or fret that its dark inside. He doesnt complain even when it is cold and he is lonely. He lives the life of a sage.The moment the cord is cut, the baby becomes an independent and intelligent person who knows to adapt to the new environment he is placed in.

He suddenly knows to use his nose for breathing and also to smell. He uses his mouth to feed and also to cry and smile at everyone. The baby who was living in a fluid medium inside the womb, suddenly knows to live in a gaseous medium.

He knows he can open his eyes to wink away the dust and light and also to view and enjoy Gods creations. He uses his little fingers to touch, to feel ,to hold on to his mother. He also knows he can use his legs to kick away things which come his way.

He knows to cry when he is hungry or is in pain and also to smile when he is happy and content.

 

The reason why I drag on is to get to the point that the baby who is zero hours old is intelligent enough to  adapt to strange situations in a matter of minutes. 

What confuses me is the same baby when is undergoing the process of growing up , cannot adapt emotionally. Even when he comes to a ripe age, say 80 yrs, when a man says he is experienced, still he wouldn’t know how to react to people and circumstances in the right way, loses his temper, gets hurt, withdraws into himself, or becomes hyperactive, becomes an introvert or an extrovert and many are worse than mad men. Don’t you think this is odd?

We say life is a process of continous learning . But what exactly do we learn if we would not learn to control our emotions even ? Well....I personally find this a controversy .

Is it because the body is more adaptable than our mind ? or  because the mind is weaker than our body ? When the body can adapt efficiently at zero years , even to the worst conditions but still the mind refuses to adapt to the minutest difficulty even at old age, don’t you  wonder why ? Do we control emotions or emotions control us ? They say " Anger and Love are the spice of life" But its always too much anger and a lot less of love.

So i feel it is unconditional love that gets lost when we grow older ? the baby knows only to love and he has not a pinch of selfishness in him. so his mind and body can adapt to people and situations ? but  men cannot because they become selfish and crave for materialistic and monetary benefits which make them unadaptable and unacceptable ?  

If the new born baby could speak he would have told us how he felt when he was inside the mothers womb . He would have told us how he feels outside ... BABY'S FIRST DAY OUT ???

I feel its because we cant adjust and adapt because  "we wont " because "we dont want to" ???

Well....Strange ????

Personally,  I feel I have a lot of "IF's"  ...

If everyone could smile at the worst situations…

If everyone could laugh off an argument which hurts…

If everyone could smile at somebody’s mistakes without jesting..

If everyone could withhold false interpretations..

If people could change their temperament …

If people could learn to stop backbiting..

If people could love unconditionally..

If people would stop hurting others …

DON’T YOU THINK THE WORLD WOULD HAVE BEEN A BETTER PLACE

IF ONLY WE COULD………

JennyPadua,Nagercoil,TamilNadu,India,JeniPadua